I built the thing I needed - a Dandelion Clock
On creating a monthly membership for late-diagnosed women whose brains run on a different clock
I was diagnosed with ADHD late in life - very late really. Not because I was seeking medication, but validation. Like a lot of women, the diagnosis arrived after decades of believing I was simply not trying hard enough. Too scattered. Too emotional. Too much.
The diagnosis explained the why. It gave me a word for the chaos and the exhaustion and the way my brain refused to run on standard time. But it didn’t come with a manual. It didn’t tell me what to do on the days when simple decisions felt like boulders, or when I bought yet another planner and watched it go empty, or when I sat in a dark room at 5pm unable to answer the question “what’s for dinner?”
I also felt very alone. I didn’t want to admit I was a failure to myself and often my family because of my time blindness which saw late dinners on the table, my procrastination which saw bills left until after their due date, or my general disorganisation which simply looked like chaos. I also felt very tired. A lot.
What I needed wasn’t more advice. I had read the books and followed the accounts and saved the threads. What I needed was a place where I didn’t have to explain myself. A place where “I forgot” or “I got overwhelmed” or “I meant to do it yesterday” wasn’t met with confusion or well-meaning suggestions to just try a calendar.
I needed a community of women whose brains ran on the same clock as mine.
I couldn’t find it. So I’m building it.
The Dandelion Clock opens its doors this week. It’s a monthly membership for late-diagnosed women with ADHD. And it’s built on one rule: one thing, once a month.
Here’s what that means.
One live Zoom session each month. One topic, one hour, real conversation. The kind where you can have your camera off if you need to, or chat in the comments if speaking feels too hard. No lectures. No homework. Nothing to catch up on. A place to share our thoughts and strategies that have worked for us (sometimes). If you don’t feel like coming along, there’ll be a replay and resources.
A weekly email called This Week’s Seed. One small idea or strategy to try, if you want to. If you don’t, that’s fine too.
A monthly guide that you fill in during the session, so over time you build your own ADHD-friendly reference library. Something that fits your brain, not someone else’s system. You’ll also get a strategy companion afterwards containing the ideas we’ve explored.
There’s a Facebook group too for ongoing discussion whenever you need it.
Best of all you’ll be in a private community of women who understand what it means to get this diagnosis after a lifetime of masking, apologising and working twice as hard just to stay in place.
I’m taking just 15 founding members at $25 a month. That price locks in for as long as you stay. After that, the rate goes to $29.
Our first call is Thursday 30 July at 7pm ACST.
This isn’t about fixing you. You aren’t broken. Your brain just needed the right clock.
If you’ve been looking for a sign that you don’t have to do this alone, this is it.
https://www.nanberrett.com/the-dandelion-clock
Nan
P.S. If you know a woman who is stumbling through the aftermath of a late diagnosis, feel free to pass this along. Sometimes we find the right room because someone else pointed us to the door.
